Tuesday, November 23, 2010
A Daughter I never knew
Today I kind of feel bad becuase I am between a rock and a hard place. I found out this time last year that I have a daughter who is 20 years old. I was with her mother 20 years ago one time, and did not remeber who she was. I took blood test and it was 100% mine. I never disputed this fact, the blood test had to be done for leagal reasons. Now Since the mother had never told me that I had a daughter, she has placed in my daughters mind that I am not a good person, and has been trying to take me to court for 20 years of Child support. I have been going to court for this whole year and the courts have been throwing the case out. in the begining I want to have a relationship with my daughter, but seems like it is impossible becuase of the mother. My daughter is a grown woman and I never new her. and seems like she does not wish to know me. I have to except that and move on. The mother is still trying to get me for child support, I figure she is going to try and find away. I am so angry because I never had the opportunity to know my daughter, becuase the mother never told me, but she is mad at me becuase of her fault. DAMN!! I am so mad becuase I can not find away to have my daughter in my life. Ahhh Sorry I just had to write this personal business.
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What is a shocking new! I hope you can find a good solution for it.
ReplyDeleteDamn man that is messed up. Where was this mother when ur daughter was a child. Now she is adult you should take her to court for hiding her from you. And now she is trying to come forward and collect for what. 20yrs of support uh tell the mother that she is an adult at 18yrs,not 20yr. I am on your side with this one, that is not fair. I am sorry that this is happening to you. I would try to talk to ur daughter tell her it was not your fault. You had no idea, you know the mother knew the whole time and didn't come to tell you. She has no grounds for a suit. Courts will want to know why now are you just now coming forward. It shouldn't hold up, lawyer up just to be safe. Keep your head up.
ReplyDeleteyeah thaansk for the last comment. I hear all the time that men run away from there responsibility, I never ran away from that, I found out I had a daughter, I did the whole 9 yards to try and have a relationship with my daughter. I coome to find out that she is going to this expensive Privte collage down in SC and her mother is noy trying to sue me iin court. WHat a Chrismas present, I have Lawyerd up, the coast for a lawyer is killing me and looks like my kids will not have a good Chrismas. Anyway I go to court on the 22 of December, now aint that a blimp.. This is messed up for me to keep fighting. THey though this stuff out in Mercer County Court becuase of Jurisdicional problems, not the mother has made my daughter file in Camden county, so my Lawyer will file a motion to dismiss it on the same grounds that Mercer County did. I just hate that fact that since I got to know my daughter, I have been fighting in court to defend myself, and not work on having a great relationship with my daugher. this is so depressing, I so much want to know my child in a good way. My daugher is a grown woman, if she can not see what is going on, then I have to just forget it and move on with my other children thatI have.
ReplyDeleteWhat a horrid situation - you have been burned in two ways - the "hidden" child where you were never given a chance to know, and the "support" after this child became an adult. This is just a horrible and bad situation - It should never even have gotten this far for you to even need a lawyer.
ReplyDeleteSo much in life is unjust and unfair - this is a brutal attack on you - I hope the courts just keep throwing this out - anyway, hope you can sue for your costs, and the "costs" of having this secret kept from you.
Give your daughter time (so easy for me to say, but I would be hard pressed to actually do it) - perhaps a letter sent to her about what happened might work - a letter truly written from your heart!